Hoe Tips: Depression Edition

imsryimlate:

So you wanna up your hoe game, but also everything is impossible and you want to die? This is the post for you!

1. Embrace the shittiness. Don’t accept it, strive for recovery, but embrace your limitations because self-love is a core value of successful hoeing.

2. You want to look hot as fuck but also you can’t wash yourself because basic hygiene is TOO HARD RIGHT NOW. Invest in mamma’s little helpers: dry shampoo and face wipes (broke ho version: baking soda and baby-wipes). You can do your hair and wash your face in like .2 seconds. You can even do it in bed. Amazing.

If doing your hair is NOT going to happen today: just throw that shit in a. a bun b. a side braid. There ya go. Rotate as needed and throw in a bandanna or headband every now and then. Nobody knows you are dying inside.

3. Your look needs to be on point but you are currently a gutter trash animal inside. Don’t even worry! Get yourself some trusty black leggings, comfy sweaters, and large boots. Sleep in these leggings and sweaters. Wake up. Put feet in large boots. Outfit sorted. The large boots are key, because a. they hide your mismatched/dirty/missing socks, b. they pull the outfit together. This can actually look super on-purpose with pretty much any style. In the summer time, sleep in your undies and then pull of a comfy dress and boots. You can do this pretty much every single day by spicing things up with a scarf or cardigan or what have you and no one really notices.

4. You need to be on that eating shit, because an unhealthy ho is an unhappy ho. When I’m doing well, I cook all sorts of yummy healthy stuff. But when I get depressed my brain is like, “Um, no.” I’ve learned the safest bet for me is to buy food that I will actually eat and ignore what your grocery bag is “supposed” to look like. There have been month long periods where all I buy is cereal and popcorn. I supplement with fruit and salads when I can. That’s okay, just feed yourself. My best ho tip is to stock up on granola bars that you like. I got through three months of this semester by eating a Clif or Laura bar for every meal during my classes/bus/in bed. Its cheap and its easy and it means you aren’t skipping meals.

Also, buy a water bottle and drink out of it as much as humanly possible.

5. Take your birth control, anti-depressants, vitamins, and whatever else at the same time every night. Put then on your nightstand next to a large jar of m&m’s. Take the pills, eat some m&m’s, have an easier time sleeping knowing that your basic health needs are taken care of.

If face wipes fuck with your skin, or putting off a shower for yet another day is an ongoing part of your routine, the answer is Cetaphil’s “Gentle Skin Cleanser.” Idk what kind of wizardry is involved, but it’s face and body wash you can use WITHOUT WATER. Literally the soap equivalent of dry shampoo.

It doesn’t advertise that fact, but right on the back there are directions for “use without water.” You just slather it on and wipe it back off with a cloth or tissue. It leaves my face feeling clean, not greasy, but also not dried out at all. There isn’t any weird residue or stickiness, it’s not perfumed, and it doesn’t cause breakouts. It’s just… magical soap that requires the same effort as applying body lotion. Oh, and it’s not really expensive, either. (You can get a two pack on Amazon for $13, which will last a while.)

It’s been a lifesaver for me when my various debilitating shit strikes all at once, and my desire to freshen up rivals my desire to stay in bed. Now we just need a workaround for brushing your teeth, the final boss of depressed personal hygiene.

midclown120boos:

midclown120boos:

midclown120boos:

okay i just had a bad epiphany but corporate interest’s influence on the internet is going to become so much stronger now that generations that are internet naturalized have grown up and starting working as “social media consultants”. advertising is going to become so much more subtle, manipulate your behavior to a greater extent, and completely pervade every aspect of our lives the more we rely on the internet for everything from entertainment to social validation.

what im saying is its scary that corporate twitter accounts are getting good at twitter. to have the same avenue a human would to express themself. its like, an extreme anthromorphism of a brand, and that brand representing a corporate interest, and successfully passing itself off as a sentient entity on twitter, thats really weird to me.

like this is so fucked up. it doesnt immediately read as an advertisement, conceptually it executes the levels of irony and deconstruction that usually make for successful memes in this genre or whatever. its almost subverting itself, but ultimately it still succeeds as an advertisement. it makes me sick. for every misfire of corporations trying to relate (pepsi protest commercial), theres another company getting better at it

i think about this every time tumblr loses it over @dennys shitposting.

we’re well past the point of accepting the idea that corporations have personalities. that should alarm us. but we like those personalities, so it doesn’t.

baku:

meggiesakura:

baku:

jollyreginaldrancher:

baku:

in case you haven’t heard it today, or don’t fully realise it yet: i promise you that most people in this world are kind, loving and understanding. the people around you want you to succeed, they do not want you to fail. your friends don’t hate you, they love you, and they want to see you grow and prosper.

the world is not as bad as it seems. don’t forget that.

Sounds fake but ok

good news: it’s not fake. everything i said is true. being dismissive towards good things is a damaging mindset to have. you’ll feel a lot better if you have some trust and if you’re willing to consider optimistic viewpoints.

Is this what non depressed people feel like ? Damn. You’re so lucky

i’m extremely mentally ill and extremely depressed at that. deflecting good advice that encourages you to think positively about life by claiming that the person who said it is not depressed (when i very much am) is also a very damaging mindset to have.

OP pretty much said it all, but I feel so strongly about this that i just want to point at it and underline it. It takes two hands to count out all of the serious, debilitating issues I struggle with. I was diagnosed with the first one twenty years ago, and clearly those two decades involved some low fucking lows.. So I know better than anyone how bad it gets, and how bleak it feels.

But y’all worry me sometimes with this race-to-the-bottom shit, where you’re basically outdoing strangers in your vehement insistence that life is garbage. It doesn’t matter that it manifests via memes or has “jeez, lighten up, it’s just a joke about life being garbage!” subtext. Any therapist would tell you that’s still a bad habit, because it reinforces all the negative, inaccurate stuff your brain is LYING TO YOU about. The more depressed you are, the more anxiety is gnawing at you, the more important it is to remind yourself of the exactly what OP said here.

Like, at some point it stops being cute and funny, and you just become the mental health version of that “rabies is beautiful, and it’s part of who I am spiritually” guy. Don’t build an altar to a disease. Don’t set a place for it at your table when it’s not even around. Yes, it’s part of your life. But it’s the worst part, and definitely not the biggest or most important.

NEVER take candy, gum or water from Uber drivers. This is exactly why.

shygirl718:

thatpettyblackgirl:

Can’t even take a Uber to your destination with someone trynna do some slick shit

Damn..please reblogg

I see people in the notes dismissing this as an urban legend, and I want you all to PLEASE BE AWARE that this is a real thing that can happen. Two days ago a serial predator dubbed the “Ride Share Rapist” was caught in California.

This one worked for Lyft, and he captured his victims by cruising around bars, pulling up next to women who were clearly waiting on a ride, and pretending to be their driver. He abducted and raped at least four women this way during the last five years. Police think it’s likely there are many other victims they don’t know about.

It’s fucking crazy that we normalized getting into a stranger’s unmarked car and telling him where we live or work, but please remember that’s what you’re doing every time you take an Uber.

Be safe out there, and stay alert.

four-and-a-half-gulags:

weavemama:

weavemama:

THIS IS HOW YOU START THE PROCESS OF CHANGE

I also love how this bill doesn’t follow the ableist agenda that’s been going around lately that demonizes mentally ill people. The bill carefully specifies that the ban is for convicted domestic abusers. Good job Oregon.

Domestic violence is a violent felony, felons were already banned from owning firearms. The law is a bit redundant and is just being reported on to make people feel safer

No, actually. Domestic violence convictions are often misdemeanors. That being said, as of 1996 there has been federal legislation in place that is supposed to ban anyone with a domestic violence misdemeanor from having access to guns.

This new Oregon law closes what’s referred to as the “boyfriend loophole.” Federal law is worded in a way where a convicted abuser’s ability to access guns is only impeded in certain situations – if the victim was their spouse, they lived together, or had children together. This Oregon law changes the wording from “domestic partner” to “intimate partner,” extending the gun ban to abusers who were dating their victims (which is actually the majority of them!).

Gun culture is a big thing in Oregon, and this law is definitely a big deal. The bill might seem like an obvious revision, or legal redundancy, but it was fiercely opposed by all Republican state senators, one of whom wanted it to offer an abuser or stalker “recourse to gain rights back after a period of time of good behavior.”

i get stressed out about reviewing fic like i try to review but i probably only do it 10% of the time bc i want the reviews to sound good

As someone who typically rewrites comments/asks/etc multiple times, I understand! It seems like a lot of people in fandom avoid leaving feedback for this reason – they don’t know what to say, or they’re self-conscious about how to say it, and it seems intimidating.

The thing is – and I really mean this – reviews don’t have to be eloquent! They don’t need to be lengthy or detailed at all. I promise you, even a very simple comment means the world to a fic writer. Think about it this way: they’re WAY more stressed out about wanting what they wrote to sound good. You have the upper hand in the situation! You are just reassuring them that this thing they’ve put time and energy into doesn’t suck, because that’s a writer’s default assumption if you don’t say anything at all.

You cannot go wrong with:

Fantastic story, I really enjoyed.
Great work!
This was wonderful, thanks for sharing it.

If you want to give them the old razzle dazzle, you can also mention one thing you particularly enjoyed, such as:

I love the vivid descriptions, I could picture everything so clearly.
You really captured [character]’s voice.
The slow build of tension was incredible.

That’s all it takes! A simple, sincere 1-2 sentences will be greatly appreciated by any writer. I know it seems like that sentiment is conveyed by likes/kudos, but honestly, it’s a million times more rewarding to get an actual comment on a fic. I can’t even really explain why, except it’s the difference between “someone liked this enough to hit a button” and “someone liked this enough to send a message to you, one person to another, because they wanted you to know your effort was appreciated.” It feels much more meaningful and encouraging, especially since so few people bother to do it these days. I have 28 fics on AO3 and get kudos pretty regularly, but getting the rare comment absolutely makes my day. When you genuinely like a fic, please, just say so!