Tina Cohen-Chang in ‘Glee’s brilliant character development’
Okay, this doesn’t actually add up. Feminism is about having the autonomy to make your own choices, particularly about your body and sexuality and forms of self-expression, and understanding that everyone’s choices are equally valid and deserving of respect. Tina shut Artie down because he was acting like her choices were his to make, and literally demanding that she alter her appearance and sexualize herself to meet his chosen beauty standards. It was insulting and hurtful, and she reacted the same way she does now when someone tries to stifle her or tell her she isn’t good enough. She read him the riot act and kept doing what she was doing.
But refusing to be controlled by her boyfriend doesn’t obligate her to react any particular way to future sexual comments from men. If she’s comfortable with Sam and that kind of attention from him makes her happy (which was established earlier in the episode), that’s totally fine and doesn’t make her any less of a feminist. You can freely criticize Sam for making sexual comments in the first place, but criticizing Tina’s enjoyment of them is doing the same thing Artie did – dismissing the choices she’s made about her boundaries and sexual expression because you don’t find them appealing.