Be careful how comfortable you get with jokes that cut yourself down and emphasize the false concept that there’s no hope for your future and life is pointless. I get that talking about struggles is important and helps in not feeling alone. There has to be a line though, between “hey here’s something that’s rough so I’m gonna laugh about it” and cheering each other on as you hammer unhealthy concepts deeper into your mind. You are not worthless. You are not ugly. You are not trash. Good is absolutely possible in your future. Don’t forget that words have power. Be careful how much poison you throw in your own well.
I’ll be honest: there are times when I resent this kind of advice. Things sometimes do seem hopeless and unchanging.
Except he’s right. “Be careful how much poison you throw in your own well.”
Tag: mental illness
real adult™ tip from a real adult™ with executive dysfunction
do stuff while waiting for other stuff
like that sounds intuitive and vague but so much of the day is spent in a period of wait and if you struggle to motivate yourself to do things then this is the best time
waiting for your water to boil? bag up your garbage. waiting for your coffee to drip? wipe down your counters. roommate taking up the bathroom? scoop the cat box. waiting for your food to cook in the microwave? do however many dishes you can while it’s in there.
waiting is the perfect time to do a limited amount of something for yourself where you would be otherwise just standing around doing fuck-all
THIS IS REALLY HELPFUL!
I actually turn this into a game!
“How many chores can I do while the water is boiling for my tea?”
“Can I put away the dishes and wipe the counters before my lunch finishes reheating?”
“Can I sweep the floor AND change the laundry while the dogs are out back?”
You can totally do this! If you make it like a game, also, you will get better at it, and you can be like ‘yes, now I put away the dishes AND wiped out the sink before my water boiled, I am a level 2 Adult!’
Game everything. Make it all into a minigame. Executive dysfunction trembles in the face of ‘how much laundry can I fold between chat replies?’
You have a reputation for being horribly indecisive. In truth, you’ve been cursed with the ability to see every possible negative outcome of every choice you make, no matter how minor.
Oh boy let me tell you a thing about anxiety
LOLOLOLOLLLLLL
Please reblog if you are 20+ and are mentally ill. I see so many posts by mentally ill teenagers and that’s great, but I feel like I’m too old to have depression and anxiety and other mental issues to the extent that I do.
About to turn 31 next month. PTSD, two anxiety disorders, severe depressive episodes lasting 1-2 years at a time, plus the hypomanic swings of the Bipolar II spectrum with ADHD. I’ve tried fighting through it, ignoring it, making lifestyle changes, and being on a revolving rotation of different meds and doses since I was thirteen years old.
Underneath all of that, I’m one of the most driven, ambitious people you could ever meet. I’ve worked insanely hard, sacrificed a lot, and never stopped trying to be more than my messed up brain chemistry. I came pretty close to getting everything under control in my early twenties, but around age 25 a significant and prolonged PTSD trigger led to a full-fledged nervous breakdown. (A solid couple of months of barely getting out of bed, never leaving the house, bouts of hysterical crying, total lack of hygiene, GOOD TIMES.)
You don’t outgrow mental illnesses. To paraphrase Stephen Fry on this subject, you’ll never be able to change the weather so it’s always bright and sunny; the best you can do is plan for the inevitable rain and know that it will pass again.
i feel like im in the sims where it takes 5 hours to make pasta and then u have to immediately go to bed
ay can we stop pretending like ADHD isn’t a Real Mental Health Issue and is Easy To Deal With? it’s a hugely detrimental disorder that effects performance in school and at work, and personal relationships on multiple levels. with ADHD it’s difficult to implement the routines necessary for day to day functioning. maybe educate yourself before criticizing a disorder that’s very fucking hard to live with.
for those unaware, I’ve been told by several friends they didn’t know this, adhd can effect basic survival rituals. Adhd makes sleep nearly impossible most of the time, makes cooking a too long task which c a n easily lead to a microwave diet, it makes basic reading and comprehension without interest physically exhausting (FYI that means us adults with adhd are fucked) and can even cause major, drastic mood swings as our energy plummets and skyrockets sometimes even resulting in straight up manic episodes. ADHD & ADD are very serious and real stop acting like they’re not a big deal.
Also: ADD isn’t a diagnosis anymore. They’ve made ADHD into three categories now, which are: innatentive, hyperactive-impulsive, and combination.
The news of Robin Williams’ suicide has me thinking about a few things that I felt like posting about.
I’m seeing posts circulating about resources like the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline (1-800-273-8255) and IMAlive, and I want to stress that these are amazing organizations that do so much good work. But they could do even better in a society that didn’t shame people for needing them in the first place.
We live in a society where talking about personal experiences with mental illness is looked down upon (tumblr is better than a lot of places, but it’s certainly not anywhere near perfect). Those of us who live with it are made to feel bad for things that are out of our control. And we’re also made to feel like we shouldn’t need the resources that are available to us. If we can get by without them, no matter how awful that getting by actually feels, then we should do that. And that’s not how it should be.
There is no shame in needing help. There is no shame in needing to talk to someone or needing to be on medication. I need to be reminded of that a lot, and I figure I’m not the only one.
People with depression and other mental illnesses need to be supported by everyone around them. We need to be able to talk about our experiences when we want to. We need to be an active part of any discussions of mental illness that actually are happening. Because no one understands it better than those of us living with it.
And that support needs to happen long before thoughts of suicide enter the picture. Because there are so many terrible ways that we can suffer long before we reach that point. And mental illness affects different people in different ways at different times. And the sooner people get access to the resources they need (and it’s awful how hard it can be to get access to them, even when you’re ready and willing).
So always listen without pushing us past our comfort point. Always respect our experiences. And never silence us, not with your own words or with strange looks or by just flat out ignoring what we say.
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