Author: hoverbones
Can i get a step by step on how to do this?
So far for me it’s been something like:
1. Become aware of how and when you tearing yourself down.
2. Now that you can catch yourself doing it. Offer counters to the negative self talk. A really useful thing I read was to talk to yourself almost the way you would child. Gentle and patient. Even when they fuck up.
3. Take time to celebrate your small accomplishments. You’ve been attacking yourself for every little mistake. Apply that same fervor to the positive things in your life. Did the dishes even though you didn’t want to? Fuck yeah! Got up and took shower? YES!!! You are taking positive steps to feeling better. Celebrate it.
4. Make lists of things you’re good at/ like about yourself. The first time I did this the only two things in my list we’re that I liked my hair and I had good friends. It was start.
5. Don’t beat yourself up if you screw up steps 1-4. It’s counter productive. When I catch myself calling my self stupid for some mistake or other my response now is,“We don’t talk to ourselves like that anymore. What’s something constructive that could actually help solve the problem.”
Most of the time that seems to work. Not always. But more and more Everytime.
I hope any of that made sense.
oh my goodness there are instructions!!
I wrote five letters, so don’t go feeling too special.
To All the Boys I’ve Loved Before (2018) dir. Susan Johnson
Fan fiction reviews
helly-watermelonsmellinfellon:
Imagine you have a coworker who likes to bake. Every week, they bring in a batch of delicious, homemade cookies and leave them in the break room. Next to the plate of cookies is a sign, “If you like my cookies, could you please just leave me a note and tell me what you like about them? The more feedback you leave about what you like, the more incentive I have to bake.” A hundred coworkers walk by and take a cookie. One person leaves a note. “Great cookies! Bake some more soon!”
The next week, once again there are cookies in the break room with the same sign. Once again a hundred people take a cookie and only one person leaves a note. “Nice! More soon!”
Week Three- Once again, a hundred people take a cookie. No one leaves a note.
Week Four- One hundred people take a cookie. No note.
Week Five- There are no cookies. Someone leaves a note. “Where are the cookies? I loved them. Please, please bake some cookies.”
Week Six- There are no cookies. Ten people leave notes. “I miss your cookies. They were my favorites. I loved the chocolate chips. My friend really liked the way you had almonds in the cranberry ones.”
Week Seven- Motivated by the wonderful notes, the baking coworker stays up late to bake the best batch of cookies they have ever made. That week, a hundred people take a cookie. No one leaves a note.
The co-worker gives up baking for their colleagues.
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Please, if you like the fan fiction that you are reading, let your authors know. Stories are abandoned for a myriad of reasons, but it is very, very hard to stay motivated when you receive no positive feedback. If there is a story that you like, whether it is a completed one or a work in progress, please leave an up-lifting comment or review. By doing so, you’re providing that writer with motivation to spend their time and energy creating more stories for you.
And that way, you both win!
We got more feedback the year we took our website offline than at any other point in our 15 years of writing fanfic before that. So we put the archive back up. And all the feedback vanished again. Disheartening, but at that point, unsurprising.
Support your writers, your artists, your content creators: the people who spend time making things and sharing them for free so fandom can be nicer and a richer place for everybody.
Okay… You knocked some sense into me. And I’m honestly surprised because of it. I’ll try to write more revives.
This is the cause of a lot of unfinished fic. FFN has a page to show you your stats and you’ll have like 60K readers for chapter 1 and then chapter 2 will have only 17K readers. And the list of readers shortens as the chapters go on, until your in only triple digits and are getting maybe 5 reviews a chapter. It’s disheartening.
That last reblog about the chapters is super true. Please, if you love the whole series, don’t just like/reblog/comment on only the first chapter. When we notice that the feedback has depleted on the chapters beyond the first, we assume it’s because people aren’t enjoying the direction of the story and/or they’ve stopped reading the story. And hey, that might be true for some. But future chapters receiving a whole lot less feedback than the first has become too common to solely blame it on that.
So please, if you enjoy the next chapter, let us know. Whether that be through a like, a reblog, or a message. It’ll make us more motivated and invested in writing the following chapter, and it can potentially save the story that you enjoy reading from being added to the “discontinued” pile!! ✊🏻✨
I always want to leave feedback, but my timing is always wrong. For example, the fanfiction I’m reading now is written in 2012 and I don’t know if the author will be able to still see it, or if it’ll even play a part in making the author continue the story, or that the author will still appreciate it.
I’m chiming in here because of that last comment. I don’t get many fic reviews anymore, but most of the ones I’ve gotten in recent years include a qualifier exactly like that – “you wrote this so long ago, you might not even seen this!” or “I hope this doesn’t bug you.”
In one case, the person was basing their assumption on the AO3 date, which is just when I added it to that archive. It was actually several years older than that – I wrote it a decade before they left their comment.
What I tell them, and what I’m telling you now, is that I LOVE KNOWING SOMEONE ENJOYED WHAT I WROTE! In all my years in fandom, I’ve never known a fic writer who didn’t feel encouraged, validated, and happy about getting feedback, even a single sentence like “This was great!” Point to any of my old-ass fics, and I can tell you where I lived when I wrote it, what my motivation was, and like 283835 additional thoughts and feelings I still have about it.
I can’t speak directly to chapters, because I’ve never posted fic that way, but please, please don’t treat fanfiction like it has a shelf life, or assume the person who wrote it doesn’t care anymore. I haven’t posted a fic in five years, but any time someone bothers to comment, I feel a little more encouraged to keep trying to write again.
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